• Tara Simone

23 Things I Learned by 23

I can no longer sing "I'm feeling 22" along with Taylor Swift sadly because today is my birthday! (and a full moon! Totally a sign something magical is going to happen today). So as I was releasing old patterns and blocks with the full moon last night and reflecting on this past year of life, I started to think of all the things the hard lessons, and a few easy ones, I was taught. My hope is by sharing them, you can learn a new perspective as well and learn the lesson in a more graceful way!


Since it is my 23rd birthday I wanted to share the biggest life lesson, life hacks, and life quotes that I learned this past year. These are tips every millennial women needs to know and may just change your life. I share my best fitness tips, financial tips, friend tips, and even a few other random ones as well. Read them all here!

1. You have all the answers within you. So many of my clients or even friends on Instagram are looking for a coach to give them the answers in this life. But the reality is you don't need a coach, mentor, or a new training to find the answer. They definitely can help make it easier to find within in since they hold an outsider perspective, but you already know the answer.

2. Trust your intuition! She knows her sh*t. SO many times I didn't listen to my gut and ended up paying for it. I listened to their words instead of their vibes, which always speak louder. Trust your gut and be unapologetic about it!

3. Don't be afraid to be a b*tch! My first job was in a retail store so my mindset was "the customer is always right", but really YOU are always right! You know what is right for you and if someone cannot respect that tell them with love the eat a d*ck! (Obviously you can be a lot nicer than seriously don't be a human doormat)

4. Learn to say "no" as a complete sentence. We, especially women, want to please everyone and guess what?! You cannot please everyone and in trying to do so you will never please yourself. Learning to say "no" without adding the why behind it gives you back your power. You do not owe anyone an explanation. To help you decide what to say "yes" and "no" to try my new mantra: "if it is not a HELL YES! than its a no"

5. Everything is working out in your favor. Yup, EVERYTHING! Even when it looks like the world is falling apart and nothing is going your way. There is always an important lesson in there trying to teach you something so you can get to your next level. Meditate, ask for guidance, and just focus on your next right step.

6. Go see a chiropractor! I spent years with back pain cause everyone said "once you go once you have to go weekly forever to feel good all the time" LIES. I only go once a month now (at the beginning I did go weekly because of the intense pain of realigning my back), my back pain is nonexistent after 10 years of pain, and I can finally lift weights and pick up my dog again. Worth it!

7. Friends come and go for the better. Just because you were besties in highschool doesn't mean you have to be now. The right people will always fight to be in your life and it is okay to grow apart. Bless and release them.

8. Personal development is KEY to happiness! For years I thought self help books where stupid and for weak people...I was wrong. They have changed my life and I do not go a single day without reading or listening to something that will better my mindset. Check out this blog for a list of my favorite ones!

9. If you're not growing, you're dying. In life you are either moving forward or backwards, there is no staying still. Once I realized this I stopped waiting for tomorrow and did the damn thing now! Growth equals happiness so if you want to truly be happy, start challenging yourself and stop trying to stay still.

10. Take care of your skin! For years I never wore sunscreen, had a good skin care routine, or paid attention to what I put on my body. Did you know it only takes 27 seconds for anything on your skin to absorb into your bloodstream?? Start investing in better lotions, skin care, soap, shampoo, makeup, everything! See my favorite products here!